One of the top stories in celebrity gossip for this week has been about the Cardi B. and Nicki Minaj fight at a New York Fashion Week event. According to People.com, the two rappers got into an argument last Friday night at the Harper’s Bazaar ICONS party. The argument turned physical when Cardi B. screamed and lunged at Nicki Minaj.
Cosmopolitan magazine shared a video of Cardi removing her shoe and throwing it at Nicki, all while yelling “I Will f –k you up!” Cardi B. left the Harper’s Bazaar party with her entourage. Her red Dolce & Gabbana dress was ripped in the back and she had a welt on her head.
Both women responded to the issue with Cardi B. releasing a statement on her Instagram account and Nicki Minaj commenting on the issue on her Queen radio show on Apple Music’s Beats 1.
CARDI B.’S RESPONSE:
NICKI MINAJ’S RESPONSE:
“I was in a Gaultier gown — off of the
motherf—ing runway — and I could not believe how humiliatewe all felt.”
“I just want people to know that Onika Tanya Maraj was never, will never… speak ill on anyone’s child. I am not a clown. That’s clown shit.”
I read many responses from both Cardi’s fans and Nicki’s fans showing support for their favorite artist. I wasn’t surprised to read rude comments about both artists talking about who they think will win a fight and who’s really the “Queen”.
I get that keeping up with our favorite celebrities can be fun, especially when there’s a little drama involved. Many people thrive off of drama, too, and that can be a big problem.
I mean, can you imagine being at a party and someone who doesn’t like you throws a high heel at you…screams at you and
Both women said they were very upset about the altercation. I can only imagine how upsetting it must have been for the two. Not picking sides here because I honestly do not know the whole story between Cardi and Nicki’s beef with each other. Just saying…I know that it had to have been embarrassing and frustrating.
So I got to thinking…how should we really handle tension when in social situations?
BECAUSE LET’S BE REAL:
If you were at a social gathering and started throwing things at someone and cussed them out, the cops would be called and you’d probably end up in jail. That’s just the reality of it.
1. Think about potential repercussions.
When you’re in the heat of the moment, it can be tough to think a few days ahead, or even a few minutes ahead, in the future to think about what repercussions might occur from your actions or words.
When you feel like making a quick, rash move or saying something to the person you aren’t fond of, make yourself take a deep breath, and then quickly run through the potential effects of your actions.
Could you get fired? In trouble with your boss? Or would it simply be better to step away to a quiet place and calm down?
Thinking through the future can make a world of difference in handling a tense situation.
2. Go somewhere quiet to relax.
If you’re involved in a tense conversation, or you’re finding yourself wanting to lash out at someone in reaction to their words or actions, your first move should be to back off.
Step back; go somewhere quiet; and spend some alone time with your thoughts. You need to think through your words and actions very carefully, especially if you’re at a work event where others who have a hand in your career can see and hear you.
Taking a moment to close your eyes and breathe can help you make very more positive decisions.
3. Refrain from gossiping about the conflict.
After you’ve walked away from a conflict, resist the urge to turn around and do a play-by-play with your peers and ask them what they thought of the situation. Creating gossip might only fuel the fire and create even stronger tensions between the person you’re feuding with and their peers.
Instead, just smile and shake your head when others ask you about the conflict, and politely redirect the conversation to another unrelated topic. The conflict may never end if either party continues to gossip about it for days.
Instead, be the bigger person and cut it short by choosing not to gossip about it at all. If you really need to talk to someone about it, then choose a person you can trust who will keep the conversation between you two.
“After you’ve walked away from a conflict, resist the urge to turn around and do a play-by-play with your peers and ask them what they thought of the situation.
4. Discuss the issue somewhere quiet and in private.
If you find yourself with no other options but confronting the person you’re experiencing tension with, step away from the group and ask them to go somewhere private to have a calm, face-to-face discussion.
If they’re not willing to step away and talk, then walk away. But, if they are willing, head to a private room to discuss the matter together. If you both agree to keep the discussions cordial and respectful, then the conflict may be resolved in a matter of minutes.
Be sure to set ground rules before the discussion, so that you can walk away if things get out of control. You may also want to consider having a third person join you to help moderate the conversation.
5. Keep an open mind.
It can be difficult when experiencing conflict with a peer to keep an open mind about their feelings.
Remember that you’re speaking to another human being, with feelings and emotions and the ability to get hurt, too. So when speaking with your peer, speak quietly and calmly, and be sure to give them the respect that you want, too.
Listen to what they’re saying. Ask follow-up questions. And, be sure not to interrupt. You want to afford them the chance to share their ideas and feelings without being interrupted.
It’s tempting to fall into the trap of keeping up with drama. I know — I love celebrities and watching soap operas, too. But when you really think about, it’s not healthy to engage in confrontations and physical altercations.
Number one, it’s a waste of your energy. You should be more mindful in focusing on positive energy and showing love toward others. And number two, someone could seriously get hurt, whether it be emotionally or physically.
Let’s remember to be more mindful of our actions and words during times of conflict.
Have you ever faced conflict during a social gathering? How did you handle it?
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