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Check on Your Friends, Even the Strong Ones

It’s been a little quiet around here lately. I had been feeling a little down and my anxiety was high so I decided it was best to take some time off for myself. The two weeks off was just what I needed to regroup and feel refreshed

A combination of things had me feeling blue– recent events with this summer’s Black Lives Matter movement, more tragic deaths of African Americans from police brutality, and just feeling overwhelmed with social media chatter. I had received a few messages from people I didn’t know very well who were “checking on me” after George Floyd’s murder and the protests around the country started. I honestly didn’t know how to feel at first because I’ve never received messages like that before. I’m sure the intention was sincere, but it made me feel a little uncomfortable. 

You never know what a person is going through so make you check on your friends and show them some love!

Don’t get me wrong– there’s nothing wrong with checking in on a person you don’t know. I do appreciate it when others show me their kindness and support. Everything just felt very confusing because events happened really quickly and I was trying to process what was happening.

So I had to unplug for a little bit. My break gave me time to reflect and rest. I was also able to take time and think about how others who have shown support were truly trying to offer their kindness and understand. Many were trying to listen and I realized it was a great opportunity to grow together.

I was only going to take a week off, but then I had something unexpected happen in my personal life (not related to the kids or Travis so no worries). It really knocked me down and I was feeling very low. 

Travis has been my rock during this time and always gives me his shoulder to cry on when I need it. Whenever I want to talk about how I’m feeling or just vent, he takes the time to listen to me. I don’t know what I’d do without him. 

Monday Motivation: Check on Your Friends

I’m also very thankful for my mom who has taken the time to listen when I need to talk and offer caring advice. 

Then something unexpected happened last week. I had a few friends also notice my quiet mood. They reached out and texted me to simply say they were thinking of me and wanted to know if I was okay. 

I don’t usually share with others when I am feeling down. But when friends noticed my quiet mood, it really meant a lot to me that they wanted to show their love and support. It made me feel less alone and more supported. 

The old saying is true, “You never know what a person is going through.” We all experience hard times or go through a period of feeling down. Not everyone feels comfortable sharing they are going through a depression or they’re just having a bad day. That’s why it’s important we show kindness and love to one another. Our kind words or even a smile can brighten someone else’s day. 

Monday Motivation: Check on Your Friends

It’s not weird to send a friend a message or call them on the phone to just say, “I was thinking of you and I wanted you to know I’m here if you need me.” It lets your loved one know you care about them and you support them. 

A few other ways you can check on your friends:

Send an encouraging text.

Give our friend a call on the phone.

Mail a greeting card.

Schedule a time to meet for coffee or lunch. (If you’re practicing social distancing or live far away from your friend, then you can send them a gift card to their favorite cafe or restaurant.)

During my time off, I was able to reflect and rest. I was also able to take time and think about how others who have shown support were truly trying to offer their kindness and understand. Many were trying to listen and I realized it was a great opportunity to grow together.

A thoughtful gesture can go a long way. It can truly make a huge difference in someone’s life. So please, don’t forget to check on your friends, even the strong the ones! 


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Feature image courtesy of Warner Bros. Entertainment. Living Single (1993) cast Erika Alexander, Queen Latifah, Kim Fields, and Kim Cole. 

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