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Nine Days Until My Due Date and I Still Need a Middle Name for the Baby

We’ve been trying to think of a good middle name for Baby Z, but we haven’t found a name that we think is a good fit yet. We already had Baby’s first name picked out very early in my pregnancy. I had actually thought of the name a couple of months before getting pregnant and I had typed into a note app on my phone so I wouldn’t forget it. 

I never thought a few months after typing Baby Z’s name, it would actually come into existence! Funny how life works out that way, huh?

I’ve spent months thinking of middle names for our baby and I just can’t find one that flows well with the first name. Last week, I finally thought of a theme for the middle name. I would like for our baby’s middle name to mean brave, fighter, strong, or warrior.

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After the tough four weeks I’ve had with my pregnancy, I just felt like Baby and I have been fighting hard together. I would really love for my baby’s middle name to reflect our inner strength as mommy and baby. 

Travis and I are looking into boys’, girls’, and unisex middle names. I thought if we find a middle name we like that’s the opposite of the baby’s gender, then we can either use it or create our own version of the name. For instance, I named Zhen based on Zen Buddhism because at the time I was studying the religion.

I really liked the practice of mindfulness and the peaceful elements of it. My pregnancy with Zhen was a very joyful and peaceful experience and I felt the name Zen was very fitting for her. So I added the “H” to her name for a feminine touch. 

BABY NAMES THAT MEAN BRAVE, FIGHTER, OR WARRIOR

Here are the baby names I like so far that mean brave, fighter, or warrior.

BOYS

Jabari– African origin meaning “fearless, brave”

Karriem– African origin meaning “brave warrior”

Koa– a Hawaiian name meaning “warrior” and it’s also a type of tree native to the Hawaiian islands

Milo– German origin meaning “soldier or merciful”

Viggo– Scandinavian origin meaning “war” (but I actually might be partial to this name because I loved Viggo Mortensen in the Lord of the Rings Trilogy films!)

Xavion– African origin meaning “warrior, smart”

GIRLS

Imelda– Italian origin meaning “all consuming fight”

Malika– African origin meaning “Queen”

Myla– “soldier or merciful”

Sena– African, Arabic, Hindi origin meaning “this world’s beauty or grace; army; to praise; bringing heaven to earth”

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I would love for our baby’s middle name to mean brave, fighter, strong, or warrior.

DO MIDDLE NAMES MATTER?

Of course, the baby doesn’t have to have a middle name. It’s not even a legal requirement to have a middle name. I think choosing a middle name for your baby is a personal choice. Many parents have a variety of reasons why they want their child to have a middle name, such as to honor a grandparent or loved one.

Zhen actually is the only child out of my bunch that doesn’t have a middle name. Instead, she has a hyphenated first name, Zhen-Marie, but we have always called her Zhen. (Travis is the only one who refers to her as Zhen-Marie when she’s in trouble haha!)


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HOW DO I CHOOSE MY BABY’S MIDDLE NAME?

When choosing a middle name for my kids, I took a few things into consideration: honoring a grandparent, cultural and religious names, and the meaning of the name.

Here are five tips to consider when choosing a baby’s middle name.

HONOR A LOVED ONE

I think this is the most common way parents choose their baby’s middle name. Many parents give their baby a middle name to honor a loved one or person who has had a great impact on their life. Zechariah’s middle name is James, named after Travis’ father. James is also Travis’ middle name so it’s kinda cool that we have one child who has the same middle name as his dad and grandfather.

HONOR YOUR RELIGION

Religion is important to a lot of parents and often times they choose a name that reflects their religious beliefs. All three of our sons’ first names are Biblical names. They’re each named after a prophet in the Bible (Elijah, Zechariah, and Zephaniah). Zephaniah’s middle name is also a Bible-based name. Travis chose Isaac for Zephaniah’s middle name because Travis wanted it to reflect his faith.

A FAVORITE CELEBRITY

You can always have fun with your baby’s middle name by naming him after your favorite celebrity. Would you choose Beyoncé or Taraji for your baby’s middle name? Or what about Drake or Snoop?

If I had to pick a few of my favorite celebrity names for my baby’s middle name, then I would probably choose Taye (Diggs), Viola (Davis), Denzel (Washington), or Aaliyah (Haughton).

How Do You Choose Your Baby's Middle Name?
AN INSPIRING PERSON

Another option is to make your baby’s middle name in honor of a person who inspires you. My favorite female writers are Zora Neale Hurston and Maya Angelou. I find great inspiration from both women’s writings and their biographies. I think Zora and Maya would make excellent middle names for a girl.

While two male figures I find inspiring are President Barack Obama and the poet Rumi. Hmm…Rumi actually has a nice ring to it. I think I might add that to my list of middle name options!

THE MEANING OF THE NAME

I always take into consideration the meaning of a name before choosing it for my baby. Call me a little superstitious, but I don’t want to choose a name that could have a negative connotation to it.

Some names sound cute, but they actually have silly or unpleasant meanings. For instance, Byron means “barn for cows”, Calvin means “bald”, and Persephone means “bringing death” (nothing against anyone who has these names!). In the end, though, it’s up to you how you create your baby’s name. The original meanings can always be overlooked.

WHAT ARE THE MOST POPULAR BABY NAMES FOR 2020?

Nameberry, the popular baby name website, shared the most popular baby names for girls and boys of 2020 (so far).

GIRL NAMES

  • Luna
  • Maeve
  • Aurora
  • Olivia
  • Isla
  • Ava
  • Ophelia
  • Eleanor
  • Eloise
  • Aurelia

BOY NAMES

  • Milo
  • Asher
  • Atticus
  • Oliver
  • Arlo
  • Leo
  • Theodore
  • Jasper

All of these baby names are lovely and would make a great middle name. My favorites from Nameberry’s list are Luna, Isla, Ophelia, Milo, Atticus, and Arlo. I really like unique baby names, which is why my kids’ names are Elijah, Michala, Zhen, Zechariah, and Zephaniah.

I was considering choosing a middle name that means “moon” because there’s supposed to be a full moon a couple of days after my due date. But I think I’ll keep looking and see if I can find a name that sticks with the meaning I’m looking for: brave, fighter, strong, or warrior. It’s so hard to choose, but I know whichever name we pick for our baby’s middle name will be perfect!

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How did you choose your baby’s middle name?


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