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Nine Years of Marriage and You’re Still the One

I wrote an anniversary letter to my husband in celebration of our ninth wedding anniversary. It was an “in the moment” thing I typed up on an Instagram post. I was nursing Zaya (our newborn baby) and I was thinking about how happy I was that we welcomed our new baby girl on our 9th wedding anniversary.

We actually eloped when he was serving in the Army. August 3, 2011. Eleven years of knowing each other, nine years of marriage, and four more children born into our family and he’s still the one who makes my heart melt! Read the love letter to my husband that I shared on my Instagram.


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Dear Travis— I was thinking about that one time in Tennessee when I was in the grocery store and you texted me saying, "I was thinking about asking you if you wanna get married." And I said, "Let's do it!" 🛒🍎🍗🤵🏼👰🏾 We decided to get hitched right away because you had orders to deploy to Afghanistan. And I told you to wear your Class A Army uniform at the ceremony and you complained about it because you hated wearing that uniform. 🤨😂 Then you remembered day of the ceremony you had to wear the black boots with the uniform so you had to borrow boots from a friend 🙄 and he brought it to the county clerk office literally 30 minutes before we had to be in there. 😅 We didn't have much money. Spent our last $100 on our marriage license. You and I took a shot of vodka before the ceremony to relax our nerves 🥂🤫🤐 and eloped at the county clerk office. Then we ordered some pizza 🍕and watched How I Met Your Mother at home with Elijah and Michala. You remember that? We didn't do it big and have a fancy wedding. But i didn't care. I still felt like the luckiest woman in the world. 💯 We've always done things our own way anyway. We never cared about what people thought because all that mattered is we had each other. ❤ Who would've thought 11 years later (after first meeting) we'd be a big family and still going strong, huh? Nine years of marriage, eleven years knowing you— I still feel like the luckiest woman in the world. 💑😍🥰 Through thick and thin, good times and bad, in sickness and in health you'll always be my everything and I'll always be by your side. Just like you've always been by side. I love you. 😘❤ I just wanted you know that. xoxo Jenn 💜 📸 (Photos: October 2019 Detroit and August 2020 Ann Arbor, Travis by my side while in labor with Zaya) #thinkingoutloud #lovenote #9yearsmarried #crazyforyou

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AN ANNIVERSARY LETTER TO MY HUSBAND

Dear Travis, 

I was thinking about that one time in Tennessee, when I was in the grocery store and you texted me saying, “I was thinking about asking you if you want to get married.” And I said, “Let’s do it!” 

An Anniversary Letter to My Husband: Celebrating Nine Years of Marriage

We decided to get hitched right away because you had orders to deploy to Afghanistan. And I told you to wear your Class A Army uniform at the ceremony, and you complained about it because you hated wearing that uniform.

Then you remembered, on the day of the ceremony, you had to wear the black boots with the uniform. So you had to borrow boots from a friend and he brought it to the county clerk’s office, literally 30 minutes before we had to be in there. 

We didn’t do it big and have a fancy wedding, but I didn’t care. I still feel like the luckiest woman in the world. I remember after the ceremony ended when we stepped outside the county clerk’s office doors, we handed everyone a small bottle of bubbles.

I think it came from the Dollar Tree. Everybody blew bubbles before we left and I’m trying to remember why we even had the bubbles. I think it was Michala’s idea. 

After we told my family and our friends bye, we headed back to our apartment. Just you, me, Elijah, and Michala. We were a family now

An Anniversary Letter to My Husband: Celebrating Nine Years of Marriage
August 3, 2011

I remember as we drove away from the county clerk’s office, I felt like I had won the lottery. I felt like I won a million dollars. I hit the jackpot! Just the great amount of joy I felt then, even thinking about it now, makes me smile really big. It was comparable to the joy I felt with having each one of our children. It was just a very overwhelming, happy feeling. And I just felt absolutely amazing. 

We didn’t have much money. Spent our last $100 on our marriage license. You and I took a shot of vodka before the ceremony to relax our nerves and eloped at the county clerk’s office. Then we ordered some pizza and watched How I Met Your Mother at home with Elijah and Michala. You remember that? 

An Anniversary Letter to My Husband: Celebrating Nine Years of Marriage
The day we became a family of four!

It didn’t bother us the way that we chose to get married because we always have done things our own way. We never cared about what people thought because to us all that mattered was that we had each other. And it worked for us. 

Who would have thought 11 years later, after first meeting each other, we’d be a big family and still going strong? Nine years of marriage, eleven years of knowing you, and I still feel like the luckiest woman in the world.

An Anniversary Letter to My Husband: Celebrating Nine Years of Marriage
October 2019

Sure. We have our moments where we get on each other’s nerves. We argue. We’re not perfect. Yet, somehow through the good and the tough times we’re still here. We’re still together and we’re still going strong. 

We’re still growing together. We’re still figuring out this parenting thing. We’re still figuring out this marriage thing. And to me, that’s a beautiful thing to be able to share with my life partner. 

You recognize I’m not perfect and you’re patient with me. Any time I apologize for something, before I have a chance to explain what I’m apologizing for, you quickly say, “It’s okay.” I don’t know how you do it because I am the complete opposite. Lol!

An Anniversary Letter to My Husband: Celebrating Nine Years of Marriage
Celebrating Our 9th Wedding Anniversary
May 2019

I’ll admit I have a tough time accepting that you’re imperfect, but what I I do know is that I love that we have these opportunities to learn from each other, to learn from our mistakes, and to continue to grow. Together. 

I feel very proud of us that we’ve reached nine years of marriage. I feel very proud of us, that we have six children together. I feel like it’s the greatest blessing in my life.

I am thankful that I am on this journey with you– through thick and thin, good times and bad, in sickness and in health. You’ll always be my everything.

And I’ll always be by your side, just like you’ve always been by my side.

On our 9th wedding anniversary, Travis and I welcomed our sixth baby Zaya on Monday, August 3, 2020. Happy anniversary, my love!

I love you. I just wanted you to know that. Happy anniversary!

Love Jenn xoxo 

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